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I miss you all ! ! !

July 20, 2010

Dr. Willie Mae Hawkins

Hello readers,

As you know, I have not blogged in a while. So much has happened in my life….all good!!! I had to really stay focus to complete my doctorate,….complete the final research and writing, defend my dissertation, prepare for graduation, get the family together, travel to the west coast for ministry, complete another book, and plan the graduation celebration with family and friends. What a journey!!!! God has truly blessed!!!

I have plenty to blog about!!!! As everything calms down, I will gradually begin to blog again…piece by piece…as much as I can.

Blessings everyone!!
~Dr. Willie Mae Hawkins

She Builds a Vineyard – Chapter 6

March 4, 2010

She Builds a Vineyard: A Single Parent’s Transformational Journey. The revised version of the first book will be released soon.  I am so excited!!! View and enjoy the video for the except in chapter 6.  click this highlighted link…  She Builds a Vineyard – Chapter 6. You may purchase you copy at

Are We Infants in Christ?

October 8, 2009

In 1 Corinthians 3:1, Paul writes to the church at Corinth stating they are infants in Christ. He states there is jealousy and quarreling among them. As I ponder on the text in regards to ministering to single parents, I think of the quarreling we have within our inner selves. This inner quarreling occurs because we are not balanced with the demands in life as single parents.

There are the demands for proper care for children. Maintaining the financial obligations for home, children, and food sometimes get the best of us. For many who are still climbing that steep mountain of going to school and advancing on the job, this seems to be an on-going lifetime challenge. As our children grow into wanting their own independence, there are the personality conflicts that demand resolution. We wonder if the demands will ever come to an end.

We, too, sometimes are jealous by resenting our lives becasue we are not where we had hoped to be. Our stress levels are high due to the worries of our children, finances, jobs, and relating with others. For some, they still yearn for a mate to help with the responsibilities, to be the companion they desire, or to provide financial security when time gets tough.

If we have not learned to balance our lives in the midst of the demands as a single parent, I question, “Are we still infants in Christ? Balance begins with God as the center of our being. It is God who mends our fragmented lives where we can have balance to the demands of life. God places supportive people who continue to encourage us toward His greatness. God leads us to resources, which includes resources to strengthen our relationships with ourselves, our children, and with others. Indeed, it is God who gives us peace that surpasses all understanding. That is the peace within our inner selves–our souls.

One of the first steps toward maturity in Christ is allowing God to take total control over your life. Although a mate or a husband is not in the home, allow God to be the head of your single parent home. Each day, God will purge your heart and reshape your thinking to the demands of this world. Be mindful, if conflicts continue to be hard to bear, God will guide you to a good spiritual coach, counselor, or leader who can lead you to a greater insight of your conflict… just as Paul was to the church at Corinth.

Prayer: Dear God, Help us to calm the quarrelling within our inner being. Give us peace within our souls. Give us the understanding of how to handle the demands of life as a single parent. And, when conflicts continue to be unease, lead us to someone who can assist us to better understand toward your guidance. Amen.

~copyright 2009@Willie Mae Hawkins

Free E-Book: How to Establish Spiritual Transformation in a Single Parent Home

September 30, 2009

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Free E-book to all. It shares three basic spiritual principals to strengthening a single parent home. Log onto or

71 yr old Woman Strikes Back and Arrested

August 18, 2009

I just received this email news from someone in my home town (names were removed) ….

“A 71 year old women was being held in jail without bond Tuesday after County authorities said she beat her husband over the head with a frying pan.

Deputies responded to an assault call Friday morning and found paramedics treating her husband, 85 yrs old, for head injuries. A spokesman from the County Sheriff’s Office determined that the husband and his wife had argued over what she had cooked for breakfast.

The couple continued to bicker as the wife cooked another meal, and the argument escalated to the point that the husband raised his cane as if he were ready to hit his wife. The wife then hit him on the head several times with an iron frying pan.

The wife was charged with assault with a deadly weapon, and authorities said she was being held without bond because the charge stemmed from a domestic dispute. The husband was taken to a local Regional Medical Center, where he received 50 stitches to close his head wounds.”

One responded, “Too many Madea movies…………seriously, DOMESTIC VIOLENCE KNOWS NO COLOR, NO SEX, NO AGE.” Would your agree? My thought is this….Women are tired of being threatened and abused. Women have to fight back no matter how old they are. Sorry to say that she had to hurt him. But, just to think that she is 71 yrs old. How long did she deal with physical abuse…20, 30, 40, 50+ years!! Now, that’s terrible! …just terrible! What are your thoughts?

A Visitor with a Word in Her Belly

May 9, 2009

As one who works at home, I get a lot of distraction from family, friends and unexpected visitors.  In the past year or two, I have chosen to go to the library or not answer the knock on my door.  Today I chose to open the door to a neighbor down the street.  She is a talking woman too!  I admit I am a talker as well.  However, most people come to me for counseling, venting, and coaching. They know I will listen and be honest with them.  Still, this takes time and inner energy, a time and energy I need to work on projects, goals and deadlines.  

Well, I invited her in.  She appeared uplifting and bright.  She came to give me a report on the handbook I developed for my dissertation project.  (It will be published shortly.  I will keep you updated.) She stated that she had finally made a decision about loving herself and avoiding relationships that do not value who she is…a divine creation.  She admitted she held onto a relationship because of her flesh and was hoping one day the guy will change his behavior toward her.  She came to realize that her flesh was strong.  Now, valuing herself has become even stronger.  That is a testimony!  In reading the handbook, she noted that it helped her to see her self-worth.  I was really glad to hear that!!!!

The lesson or blessing for today is an unexpected visitor with a word in her belly, who can bring affirmation about your work and joy due to their personal growth.